Times Change

My wife and I were lucky enough to have our first daugh­ter last year. We will be luck­i­er still to have our sec­ond daugh­ter lat­er this year! The prospect of a sec­ond child has brought a lot of things into focus, includ­ing exact­ly how much time we’re going to have to play World of War­craft… which is vir­tu­al­ly none, giv­en how this first year of hav­ing one child has been.

We orig­i­nal­ly got into WoW because I had two com­put­ers (I’m a PC tin­ker­er), and we did­n’t have a lot of mon­ey. World of War­craft, if you play it a decent amount and already have the com­put­ers, is a cost-effec­tive hob­by. $300/year for two peo­ple is great when you’re play­ing almost every day.

But what hap­pens when the para­me­ters of your life change? How about log­ging on once a week? No raid­ing, instanc­ing, or remain­ing com­pet­i­tive at pvp. We could­n’t put the time togeth­er to fin­ish a sea­son­al event before it end­ed. In such cas­es, the cost/value ratio comes out dif­fer­ent­ly, and in our case, unfavorably.

We still love WoW. In fact, if we had­n’t decid­ed to become par­ents, we’d be play­ing tonight. My wife got teary-eyed dur­ing our con­ver­sa­tion on whether to can­cel or not. We’ve spent a lot of time play­ing this game togeth­er, had a lot of fun, and made real friends. I’ve learned so much about lead­er­ship from this game that I can’t even begin to describe it. Par­tic­i­pat­ing in this expe­ri­ence has changed us, and we’re going to miss it.

How­ev­er, times change. I feel like part of the strug­gle of being a healthy per­son is let­ting go of what has passed and putting your atten­tion into what is hap­pen­ing now. Right now, my wife is in her last trimester, and we have a lit­tle fire­crack­er run­ning around our apart­ment. For us, it’s just not the right time for a hob­by like WoW.

So, our WoW chap­ter has come to an end.

(…for now. Bliz­zard does­n’t delete char­ac­ters, after all.)

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7 thoughts on “Times Change”

  1. Con­grats to the big news!

    I can ful­ly under­stand your deci­sion — I can’t imag­ine myself play­ing when I was in the same sit­u­a­tion with so young chil­dren. It must be a pain at the same time, but since you’re two going through the feel­ing of loss and seper­a­tion I guess you have com­fort in each other.

    I’m real­ly going to miss your blog. You’re one of those that I appre­ci­ate most. You’re intel­li­gent and inter­est­ing and you know how to write. Thanks for all that you gave us.

  2. I led the horse to the water but it was you who real­ly start­ed drink­ing. I remem­ber the mixed emo­tions I felt when I real­ized you were far out­pac­ing my knowl­edge about this game AND the social struc­tures that sur­round it.

    I look for­ward to play­ing games with you in the future, my fam­i­ly and yours, even if that just means Chutes and Lad­ders or Hide and Seek.

  3. All the best to you. I’ve enjoyed read­ing your posts when I found it those months ago. I’m sure the game will still be here should you decide to come back.

  4. There seems to be a rash of posts like this from blog­gers! I don’t blame you at all, I myself have a 2 year old and a 6 month old, and I know how tough it can be. It can be dif­fi­cult to find a bal­ance, and often the best bal­ance is none at all — ie, no more WoW. Best of luck with your real life leveling!


    On PTD’s blog… Time Ver­sus Skill: My WoW Jealousy

  5. I have been sit­ting on this one for a while so I could give it prop­er atten­tion… but a month down the track all I can think of is good luck with the new one.  I also know how pressed it can be with lit­tle ones and finan­cial thoughts float­ing about… WoW becomes a tempt­ing dis­trac­tion that ulti­mate­ly does­n’t do one any favors…

    So good luck… and hope­ful­ly see you back again soon!

  6. I’ve read three of your arti­cles tonight and just came across this one last.

    I got teary eyed from hear­ing you were paus­ing WoW after hav­ing spent 15 min­utes on your blog. 

    So, best of luck! I’ve learned so much in just 5 min­utes and I thank you for it. Your writ­ing skills are unmatch­able. You must make a won­der­ful parent!

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